I Slept With My Cousin's Girl - Now What?

I slept with my cousin’s girlfriend. Should I tell him? – A Family Affair

Dear Family Affair,

Trifling. Sneaky. Selfish. Those are the three words that sum up your behavior. Pursuing a sexual relationship with someone who’s involved is wrong, but when the betrayal impacts a family member disaster is even more likely to ensue. While the adage, “honesty is the best policy”, is morally appropriate, understand that this story may not end with a happily ever after. Your cousin has the right to know that his significant other has deceived him. This is not about you, your feelings or your desire to maintain your relationship with your cousin. You forfeited that right with your indiscretion. In the big picture, his ignorance may put him at risk for disease, and, more importantly, robs him of the right to choose. He should know the character of his mate before he commits to a long-term relationship or even raising children with someone who may be habitually unfaithful. Your cousin may be upset, hurt and outraged, but he has the right to know. I suggest you do better and be a better relative in the future. You both deserve more.