Dear Tia,
I recently met a man who I believe is my soul mate. We clicked instantly. After only dating for a few weeks we've met each other's families and have become inseparable. We've already made plans for our happily ever after. Now don't get me wrong, I am not naive enough to think things will be perfect, but I do feel confident that we have what it takes to make it work. So what's the problem? Some people in my life are saying things are moving to fast. I don't plan to get married tomorrow, but I can't guarantee it won't happen next week. Am I crazy? - Ready for a Quicky
Dear Ready,
Congrats on finding the love of your life. Should you be excited? Yes. Should you follow your heart? Yep. Should you use your head? Definitely. Don't let naysayers lead you into making a decision you'll regret. If you love this man make plans to marry him — notice how I said "plan"? Be strategic about how you enter into the union. Undergo pre-marital counseling to ensure you see eye-to-eye on key issues, such as money matters, sex and family values. Additionally, you may want to consider swapping credit reports with your partner. This will allow you to get great insight into the lifestyle you'll lead as a unit. Love is grand. Marriage is beautiful. Enjoy it. But just like sex, you reduce your vulnerability to risk when you protect yourself.
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
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Dear Ready,
I understand where your coming from. Everybody wants to meet the Right one.Most of us even mentioned it to the Lord, but after we go off and make our own decisions without him. This is typically the case because we didn't realize that making requests to the Lord automatically come with applying his standards to get what we asked for. So, we move on and still concentrate on what the world says for our direction.
The world says the way to know you have the Right one, is based on the emotional or sexual connection(instant or not)you have with a person = the measurement. However these quick emotions and sexual experiences are not a guarantee that will render a person a lifetime of commitment in faithfulness and marriage without divorce, which is what we all desire. This shouldn't be overlooked. The bible says, "be anxious for nothing. But by prayer, humility and thanking him in advance, let your request be made known to God and the peace of God will surpass all understanding." This means we should never rush into anything when we are unsure our decision is not directed by God.
A good question is, do you truly know what love is? Love begins with loving the Lord first because he is love. If a person doesn't have this, then the person is moving or making decisions from the wrong source. This is not a problem as long as the individuals know, there are judgments that will come along with not lining up with,where love began. This can lead to problems in the long run when people rush, say there in love to justify moving to quick, amongst many other things.
No, marriage is not perfect. However most don't realize the only way to get thru those difficult bumps in the road (when they come) the right way, is through the strength and direction of God.
The reason I direct you back to the bible is because God can't lie and he is the bible. Its the only source of guarantee that a person can measure themselves by and get the exact result it speaks of when obedient to it.
One last thing to consider, if sex before marriage is involved,this speaks to the spiritual state of the people and cloudy judgement. This shows the standards of waiting until marriage is not a concern and automatically puts these individuals out of the running of truly having met the Right one in that person due to the relationship being founded on standards outside of God. This is just something to think about and consider. If you have any questions my website is www.thevirginityexert.com. I'm a expert in waiting on the Right one. - The Virginity Exper
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